Guest post by Kesia Alexandra, author of It Ain’t Easy
I have never questioned whether or not poor people deserve to have nice things. Growing up poor and still working my way out of poverty now, I know that having money doesn’t make someone more human and not having money doesn’t make anyone any less human. Everyone loves and deserves to have nice things, regardless of economic status.
However, I do often wonder about the nice things that many poor people choose to have. Yesterday in the dollar store the cashier was talking about how she bought her son an X-Box for Christmas and his father got him a Play Station. Another lady was talking about how she got her son one of those as well. Perhaps these people are secretly wealthy, there’s no way for me to know. But I live in a poor area and most people around here are poor, like me.
The situation made me think of some advice my mother got from a salesman once, which she relayed to me. He said, “look, if you want to sell something, don’t go to rich people. They don’t buy. Don’t go to middle class neighborhoods, they’ll pick over it, they’ll judge. You might make a few sales. But if you really want to move merchandise, go to the poor neighborhoods. Go to the ‘hood. They buy anything. I don’t know why, but they do.”
A few days ago I was at McDonald’s with my god-brother and he was talking to me about his Helly Hanson jacket and matching hat and Jordan sneakers. And it made me sad because a) he doesn’t even live with his real mother who’s a prostitute and b) the woman he does live with, i found out later that night, is very sick.
But if he has nothing else, he has these Jordans.
And I get it. Poor people, we deserve nice things too. It gives us a sense of value, in our own eyes and the eyes of all the poor people we live around. I’ve seen teenagers with Gucci belts beg bus drivers to let them ride for free because what’s the point of going anywhere if you don’t look good when you get there?
So yes, nice things are important to everyone, including poor people. But that doesn’t mean we can’t make smart decisions about what nice things to get. Growing up I might have never had X-Boxes or whatever was on trend at that time but I was taking trips around the US, I was a national figure skating champion, I always had new books because they were sold at the thrift store for 25 cents. And I was still poor. My mother just invested the money in my personal growth, something that doesn’t lose value as soon as you walk out of the store. Maybe I was made fun of for the way I dressed. I honestly don’t remember. But I do remember every trip I’ve ever taken and every accomplishment I achieved which led to new opportunities and new experiences.
I don’t like metaphorically tallying someone else’s receipts, but I think its important that if you qualify why poor people like nice things you also have to go a step further and dig into why we place value on the things we believe are nice. What makes these things “nice”? Who told us these things were “nice” and isn’t that the same person who benefits from us buying it?
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Books by Kesia Alexandra
It Ain’t Easy ~ View on Bookshelves | View on Amazon